What drives us is usually a need to fulfill a subconscious deficiency, not always subconscious but most of the time it is. And this driver is what can either hold us back from achieving great things or move us forward without looking back.

I notice from time to time that people often need help in one aspect of their life such as finance, relationships, or personal growth, however, the focus may be so driven to one aspect that they cannot break out to achieve better in the area that totally underwhelms them.

For example, I know someone whose main focus and drive is for money and more status (which he is handling nicely and at a steady pace) however, his weakest area is romantically building a connection with someone. He finds it almost impossible to find, attract, date, and get in a relationship with any girl.

Now is this through lack of trying? Well… yes. You see he has goals and ambitions, he sees where he wants to be in the next few years and the only thing holding him back is the drive to do something about it.

That’s because his focus is entirely on his career (and this is not a bad thing) however, with that being said this is what is holding him back from meeting the right person. His focus cannot be shifted due to the need and personal conditioning of pursuing the next step in his career. It also doesn’t help that he feels that by accumulating money and status, he has a feeling that “the right kind of girl” will appear and land right on his lap.

Now like I said this isn’t a bad this and in most cases, people would kill to be as driven as he is however when he wants someone to share his success with and doesn’t have that and worse, can’t get that, then that’s where the problem lies.